Brought into the light

I just started a devotional with my daughter called The Princess and the Kiss.  This is a story about how much God loves each unique individual and desires the best for all of us; it is about purity of soul, mind, body and spirit. I feel wholly inadequate to be talking to her about this.

Evil used events and choices from my past  to try to ruin my chance at purity across the board. Just the thought of doing this study with her started my tears flowing, palms sweating and heart racing. Thoughts rush at me, trying to make me feel like a piece of garbage: “You are such a sham.”  These are the types of lies that I must fight to have this conversation with my precious daughter.

Thankfully God, who forgives all our sin (Colossians 2:13),  loves me as a unique individual and desires the best for me. Because of this, I am choosing to stay in the place where I am precious daughter of the King (1 John 3:1). I am a new creation in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17). There is victory in bringing things long hidden out of dark into healing light (1 Peter 2:9). God’s desire for me is the abundance of restoration not condemnation or shame  (Isaiah 61)

While I may feel inadequate to talk about this, I can be used by God to encourage my daughter. He is able to speak to and help her as she grows (Ephesians 3:20).  I will discuss purity  of mind, body, soul, and spirit because living in the light brings freedom. It is not a easy thing to humbly admit inadequacy in any area, but I refuse to live in shame. I will not pass that on to my kids nor model condemnation to them; that is not what God desires for me or our home.

I spent most of the time during our first devotion time together choking back tears. I don’t know if she understands why, but she will understand more as we study and grow together. I trust God to reveal to us what we need to discuss when we need to discuss it and will pour out His Spirit to enable us to do so in love.  That’s what the King does for His Princesses.


The Princess and The Kiss by Jennie Bishop.  Life Lessons From the Princess and the Kiss by Bishop and Henson.

The Squire and the Scroll by Jennie Bishop. Life Lessons from the Squire and the Scroll by Bishop and Henson


  1. I guess I’ll start praying now about the future of my possible daughter. God help me if/when I have to have these conversations with my children.

  2. I am so thankful that I have God to guide me as difficult conversations arise with my boys. I often feel inadequate to be the one giving them guidance. I am so thankful that I can lean on Eph. 3:20 and know that God’s word is at work in their little hearts. (Praying for you as you walk through this study together!)

  3. Thanks so much for sharing your life and heart with us, Cindy! I’ve really been enjoying reading your posts, and it’s been great fuel for thought, prayer, and discussions with Ben. I look forward to more. . .

  4. Cindy, you are a good example of a Christian who really believes what God says in His Word! If we truly believe that God forgives us and that He does not condemn us for sins that we have repented of and asked His forgiveness for, then there truly is no shame. This quality in your life may have a greater impact on your kids than you’ll ever be able to measure. So let them know, as you see appropriate, how you practically apply God’s promises to your life!

    On another note, having had only boys in my family, the Princess and the Kiss just doesn’t cut it for me. I am looking for (and maybe just need to sit down and write) a book entitled, “Jesus Made Arrow Swishing Noises with His Mouth” or “Pinning Frogs Down with the Lord” or “Appreciating Creation by Eating Live Ants” or something to that effect. On second thought, we do have a grand-daughter now, so maybe I do need to check out the Princess and the Kiss. Nawww…I’ll get my wife to do that!

  5. Powerful, Cymba. That’s why you’re a leader at Vista…because you’re leading at Vista. Your daughter (as well as your entire family) is deeply blessed to have you…

  6. Cindy,
    We have both of those books, but I wasn’t sure they were ready. How did it go? What were you able to discuss and what did you put on hold? Thoughts? I loved when you said you will not live in condemnation nor will you example that for your daughter. Good, powerful words.